The War Against Cunnilingus

Nelli Verkhovska, PhD, during her video lecture "The War Against Cunnilingus".There is a subculture of cunnilingus haters, which includes the underclass. Refusing to perform oral sex on a woman, a man from this crowd still expects to receive a blowjob. How does he justify his unwillingness to pleasure his partner in return?

"It’s not manly to be gentle?" 

"Too lazy to put in the work?" 

"Women are dirty and don't know how to wash themselves?"

There is a concept known as the "scent of a woman" — a hormonal aroma that is most intensely felt during cunnilingus. It drives many men wild, which is part of the appeal of this type of foreplay for them. For a woman, it means achieving a clitoral orgasm (for some, the only kind, as vaginal orgasms don't happen for everyone).

I’m afraid some people even need to be reminded that oral and classic sex don't exclude each other, but COMPLEMENT one another. Giving a woman multiple orgasms instead of one means being a great lover. Someone who is desired and wanted, someone who is valued, and who values his partner enough to ensure she gets maximum pleasure.

Still, the reasons why someone would fight against cunnilingus are intriguing. They demand blowjobs, but when it comes to returning the favor — they are cheapskates.

"Prison romance" rejects this type of pleasure because in prison, giving blowjobs to other men is a humiliating punishment. But what does that have to do with giving a woman cunnilingus? Apparently, they can't tell women apart from men over there... Or their ladies never bathe and smell terrible.

In any case, there is a clear pattern: "cunnilingus-free" relationships (including cohabitation) are far more miserable than those of educated people. Among the underclass and past or future convicts, their chicks (not real women) are always whining and complaining about their trashy men (and those men really are trash for failing to pleasure them intimately). It turns out these "bitches" are just service staff who, ironically, defend these exact ideals... I wouldn't be surprised if such a woman met a great lover, she’d actually insult him for giving her a clitoral orgasm.

Actually, there’s a major upside to all of this: let great lovers go only to the women who deserve them. And vice versa: let beautiful ladies connect only with worthy men who are ready to satisfy them completely.

Photos and videos by the author, October 31, 2014

Nelli Verkhovska, PhD, Psychologist
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The Anatomical Hook: Why Curvature Matters

Psychologist PhD Nelli Verkhovska discusses male sexuality and relationship psychology.

An interesting sexological quirk: a dorsal curvature (curved outward) causes pain in the "doggy style" position. A man with such an "instrument" shared his findings, and I had to confirm he wasn't exaggerating...

We're talking about a "watering can" bend—the tool of carnal pleasure seems to be in a "bridge backward" pose, forming a letter "C" with the tip pointing away from the belly. While most "swords of love" are straight, when they are curved like this...

In short, on the knees—it's no good. Missionary—the same story. Apparently, this rebellious glans scrapes against the bladder, and pleasure is out of the question. The only thing left is the side position! It's likely that owners of such non-standard organs invented the Kama Sutra—a rational person won't hurt their partner (unless it's BDSM) and will try to adapt their features for mutual bliss.

PhD psychologist Nelli Verkhovska explains why dorsal curvature causes discomfort and how to adapt sexual positions for mutual pleasure.

Author’s self-portrait, 21.06.2015

Nelli Verkhovska, PhD, Psychologist
Explore more about unconventional relationships on my YouTube channel