"You Screwed Me Over! You Played Me!" — The Scammer's Fetish

No, you shouldn't bother proving that you didn't actually "screw him over." Assuming you’re not a shady general contractor, but a beautiful lady whose DMs have just been invaded by some self-important nobody galloping in on his high horse. That’s his entire game: to milk you for shocked or indignant justifications. It’s somewhat reminiscent of the battle cry of muggers or common street brawlers trying to dress up their assault in a righteous pretext:

"You're fucking my girl! I'll kick your ass!"

With "You played me," things are a bit different (by the way, there used to be a ridiculously catchy pop song with that exact hook)—they don't always have aggression tucked up their sleeves. Rather, it’s a compulsive urge to project their own guilt and watch the accused squirm.

This kink is trademark behavior for people who regularly scam others. And it doesn't even mean they are plagued by a guilty conscience; here, "conscience" is merely a prop—a signboard for brazenly trampled social norms. Like a "No Smoking" sign right under which addicts casually satisfy their smoky cravings.

So, when an accuser shows up to a session with a BDSM Mistress declaring that she once cruelly conned him, he’s just hoping to cop a free jerk-off from the sheer act of making the accusation. Getting off is crucial to him, of course, but the exact nature of the horrific suffering this victim allegedly endured should only be investigated after the session is paid in full. Handing out charity here is downright indecent.

Nelli Verkhovska PhD in Psychology For more on alternative relationships, check out my YouTube channel